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This is a little embarrassing but I would love to get your opinions!
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Soul Sister 2010
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 Posted: Wed Aug 11th, 2010 12:34 am
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I have gone through a painful break-up and I miss my ex.  The first time I saw her, I was there for a job interview and for a couple of months, I couldn't get her out of my mind. I would pretend to have conversations with her and pretend that we were dating. Then, when I started working at my new place of business, we got together and fell in love. 

It's over now but I remember how powerful that manifestation was and I am sure that we are soul mates. Now, I'm still hurting over losing her from my life, but I realize that while I was in the relationship, I manifested basically what has happened now. 

Well, here's the embarrassing part... I'm super fantastic at fantastizing. If I fantasize about someone (my ex or someone else) and it puts me in a nice feeling place, what will manifest? I realized that I especially enjoy fantasizing as I lay in bed at night - I fantasize about someone loving me again and about being close to someone again. I have decided that maybe I should do this far more often - but is it okay to live in a world of make believe?

I mean, I can't always think about my ex because I love her and then I miss her when I think about her so that's not always a good fantasy for me. 

But if I wanted to attract her back into my experience or someone that is more appropriate for me for instance, I know it isn't going to happen until I get into a good place, right?

So, truly all arrows point to get to a good place and then hopefully by that time, I won't mind if it's my ex or some other wonderful person that comes into my experience. 

I guess my question is, can I fantasize my way to things even if they aren't reality?

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 Posted: Wed Aug 11th, 2010 02:38 am
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:kiss: Make believe is EXACTLY where you want to be!

Never, ever face reality unless it's what you want!
 
::stardust ::runmickey(this is you heading straight for your fantasy with your back turned to reality)

Here's the thing though, you can't change someone else's vibration so you can't pinpoint your love on one particular person. Fantasize about love and the type of person you want and how it will feel to have it and that is what you will get. If you have a hard time not thinking about your ex then see if you can blur the lines a bit and get into that feeling you have when you're with your ex and blur the face a bit. Call the person 'my love' or 'sweetie' or something that appeals and leave out the name.

You are so lucky to be so good at fantasizing. Get in there as often as you can (so long as it feels good) and do it!

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 Posted: Wed Aug 11th, 2010 03:38 am
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Thank you, Sweet Peace-

I'll try to stay in fantasyland if I can. I do find it a little more difficult when I'm feeling in crisis but I have really always fantasized while going to sleep, even about things like being in Europe or winning the lottery and what I would do with the money. But fantasizing about a specific person that one is attracted to is also nice (even if being with them isn't possible).


I know that I can't influence my ex's experience, nor would I want to manipulate her in that way, but of course I wish she would come back. But I think putting that out there is coming from lack and that's not good....

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 Posted: Wed Aug 11th, 2010 03:39 am
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"Telling a new story" is a great way to get what you want.

Spending time everyday fantasizing situations that "feel" the way you want your life to feel is a great tool.  You can create your future this way and you can even re-create your past if you want.

But, if you don't change what you were vibrating that made the relationship go away, you will just repeat the past.  Have you figured that part out and told a new story, adjusted your vibration there?

We all know folks who have the same relationship over and over again with only the name changing each time.

You attracted her through fantasy but you also recognize you did something that caused it to end ... so can you change that?

Also, if you are missing her so much your relationship with your Inner Being is not all that it can be ... that is the primary relationship you want to nurture.  When that one is wonderful the others will be as well.

Sweet Peace is totally right about fixating on how you want to feel in the relationship being the key and not worrying about the "who".  It helps me tremenously to realize that I only know hundreds of people and Source knows them all.  I would far rather let Source choose my partner than for me to do it.

Your mind sounds like a wonderfully creative one so enjoy and be sure that more good things will come to you.

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 Posted: Wed Aug 11th, 2010 04:03 am
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You're right, Joyous Lady-

I guess I should figure out how to change my vibration to get what I want. Honestly, if I could re-create my past and have a second chance to grow in vibration with my ex, I would give anything to be the person that I have become with out her (only with her). But is that possible? 

And if it's possible, how in the heck would I aim for that goal without trying to infringe on her experience.

I mean, I know that if we were meant to be that we will be - I just wish (like so many other people that love another that left) that I had known then what I know now.

It's so frustrating to think that I could have changed the outcome and still been with her had I just been the person that I am now. Isn't that a torturous thought?

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 Posted: Wed Aug 11th, 2010 06:22 am
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Only if you choose to torture yourself with it. If you find yourself thinking tortuous thoughts, consciously shift your focus toward better-feeling ones, or find a thought on the subject that feels just a teensy-weensy bit better. It IS your choice. ::hugging

Much love to you, my dear,
Christine

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 Posted: Wed Aug 11th, 2010 04:48 pm
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I love you Christine! :kiss:

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 Posted: Thu Aug 12th, 2010 11:46 am
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:kiss: I'm a-lovin' you too, Sweet Peace! ::hugging


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