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Monica
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Posted: Sat May 17th, 2008 10:44 pm |
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Norma wrote: "What comes to my mind about this is that either way, if you go downstream, really focus on what makes you feel good and trust that if this other person is really a match for what you want, that LOA will shift things around and miracles can happen, or that there is something here that you are really NOT wanting, that you can't see yet, and trust that if you keep yourself in a good feeling place that someone who IS a true match to what you are really wanting will come into your life..."
Thank you for posting this Norma, I know this is so true, yet it has been difficult for me to do LOL. There is this special man I met who was everything on my list, and who had to move away for his career and we said to each other to go with the flow and see what happens, that all will be fine if it is meant to be...but I find myself missing him and having difficulties to be open to the possibility of it being someone new even though I know that the universe knows best and only if it knows that my guy is not the One will it send someone new to take his place. It also will move things around to get us to be close if we are meant to be together.
HOW can I use Abraham to stay in a consistent state of being at ease and happy with Me and thus ALLOW the One in and allow us to live close and be together or allow a new man into my life? I seem to grab the oars at times and feel myself going upstream, and I know nothing I want its upstream. Is there a particular process that any of you find helpful in this particular situation? I have been using virtual reality, but catch myself putting His face in there. I was thinking maybe I should not focus on a man at all and only on being happy being with me?
Im doing well in other aereas of my life, but the subject of relationship seems trickier for me to stay aligned.
I am very happy for having been able to release my Ex a couple months ago though. I saw him the other day and felt nothing more than I feel when seeing any friend. Thats HUGE for me.
Thank you :-)
oxox Monica
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Posted: Sun May 18th, 2008 01:13 am |
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How does one be in a place of allowing? Do anything that makes you feel good. There are lots of threads on this forum that talk about things people do to feel good.
Abraham says on one of my tapes: "If you have a hundred things and 99 of them are going sour and you focus on the one thing that is going well and use that as the thing you use to be your dominant vibration, then all the 99 things have to go away. And if you have a hundred things and 99 of them are going well and you focus on the one thing that is going sour and use that to determine your dominant vibration, then the other 99 things will go sour." (Can't remember the exact wording, but that's the jist of it.)
So it doesn't seem to matter what you focus on as long as the thing you chose really lights you up. Me, I spend many hours practicing the piano, singing, and visiting with uplifting friends. And I don't talk about what's bothering me, I focus on them and anything I can find to talk about that is going well.
So while I'm not blissed out all the time, in fact I'm going through something very difficult like you are, I am happy enough of the time that things are going very well in general, and I am embrasing the lessons of the difficult thing as a vibrational indicator. Abraham says everything is a vibrational indicator. I'm trying to apply that like the EGS.
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Posted: Sun May 18th, 2008 01:53 am |
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Monica, can you appreciate the longing you have for this guy? it is a very particular emotion, and not bad at all if you notice. Think how sad if he had gone away and you had realized that you didn't care after all. Instead now whenever there's a phone call or a mail or a letter, it is so thrilling.
This is an idea, and whenever the longing turns sour think of something else
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Posted: Sun May 18th, 2008 02:14 am |
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Thanks Norma and Ghanima.
Norma, I will do that, focus on all the things that are going well and thus make me feel good since this is what will basically override anything that may not be.
Ghanima, what you are saying means a lot and really resonates with me. Yes indeed, it IS a good thing that I miss him because it means I care about him, and I know he feels the same. I feel he is the One. I realized that my IB is telling this, and then my inner voice wants "proof" and is getting impatient.
Which raises the question, how does one know for sure if a feeling is coming from your Inner Being which already knows?
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Posted: Sun May 18th, 2008 02:26 am |
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But he IS he One, NOW. You don't seem to have doubts about it. About the future, you don't know, as you don't know beforehands how you will expand and how he will.
Regarding the question, I've wondered too. If a feeling is connected with a sense of joy, love, freedom etc. I think you can trust it as wise.
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Posted: Sun May 18th, 2008 02:50 am |
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If the EGS works the way Abraham says it does, and I don't doubt that it does, then there is no such thing as a feeling that isn't coming from your inner being. The question becomes does it feel good or not?
We sometimes feel strongly to do something that doesn't feel good to do. Abraham says this is going "upstream" and we should never do that. On one of my tapes Abraham says to someone that the universe can yeild you "infinite airports" (Whatever it is you are wanting.). The key is to not push and go upstream. Then they can have what they want , AND you can have what you want, which is to be happy.
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Posted: Sun May 18th, 2008 03:03 am |
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Monica wrote: Thanks Norma and Ghanima.
Norma, I will do that, focus on all the things that are going well and thus make me feel good since this is what will basically override anything that may not be.
Ghanima, what you are saying means a lot and really resonates with me. Yes indeed, it IS a good thing that I miss him because it means I care about him, and I know he feels the same. I feel he is the One. I realized that my IB is telling this, and then my inner voice wants "proof" and is getting impatient.
Which raises the question, how does one know for sure if a feeling is coming from your Inner Being which already knows?
Hey Monica, 
my take is, when you are in a good feeling, it's your IB and You aligned. When you feel discontent, you are not aligned with your IB.
The past few days (weeks?) when I was aggravated I know I was NOT listening to Me (IB). Today I have not really sat with me, although, I do feel much better. ::boat
 Yet when I played the scratch off instant lottery ticket, and thought I was on the UP side of the EGS and was looking at baby's picture of him smiling, which made me smile, I still did NOT get the loot!    
Love, Light and Peace, 
Beth
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Posted: Sun May 18th, 2008 03:50 am |
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Ghanima, you are right, there are no guarantees for a relationship to last forever because we keep expanding, and he does feel to be the One right now.
Beth,
you said it - when you feel good you are aligned.
I feel good when I think of him and I together.
I feel good trusting the universe to arrange for the details to bring us close geographically soon enough.
I feel good being with Myself, enjoying each day knowing that he is close to me in spirit and just a phone call away for now.
I dont feel good doubting us and thinking of going on dates with someone else.
I think my IB knows that he is the One! Its when my inner voice starts telling me not to count on it and keep my options open that I feel negative.
I feel good thinking of Him - I think I got my answer 
oxox Monica
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Posted: Wed May 21st, 2008 12:44 am |
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This is interesting. I have finally been really getting myself into alignment again by thinking about things that feel good and since I am back in alignment since yesterday morning, I TRULY feel what the article meant to say, that the One is Me. I am so excited how good THAT feels. Suddenly I feel this "Im fine being with Me" and it is just overwhelming.
BTW, its all thanks to YOU GUYS who have been of such help 
I dont miss having a man anymore, I dont miss having a commitment because I have me and thats all I truly need. I felt like this after releasing my Ex and before I met anyone new.
Then after I met this guy I really liked and who then shortly afterwards moved far away I got out of alignment. I wanted to know what it was gonna be since we didnt make any commitment and agreed to go with the flow, even though we really connected and he even talked about the future. I was focused on a man too much once again.
Since yesterday I feel FREE of all that. The funny thing is, HE now has come closer, as I could tell from our phone conversation. It was only the second one since he left, probably because I was waiting for him to call.
Furthermore another guy who I first met a few weeks ago, at the same time actually when the other one left, has suddenly reappeared! When I met the second guy I thought maybe the first guy was driftwood, but then nothing happened with the second guy either. I know it was because I was upstream, a lot! So both men kinda laid low. Suddenly they both contacted me yesterday and today in a more telling way about how they felt as you could say.
I really feel connected to the first one, because our Inner Beings had time to get to know each other you could say. We had the chance to get close and develop emotions and until yesterday I felt like he is the One. However, I didnt have time to see about the second guy yet, and now that I feel REALLY good being with Me, I suddenly feel different about the first guy if that makes sense. Like, healthily detached in an Abe kind of way even thougn I really like him a lot and I DO feel he could be the One. But, as I said, he didnt mention a commitment or exclusivity in words, so its still open - well, in my eyes at least since the universe already decided :-)
Until the second guy suddenly reappeared this morning I thought the first One most likely seemed to be the One since I never met anyone like him before. I STILL feel he very likely is. However, I also was never in alignment in my entire life before until I found Abraham and I wonder why the universe brougth the second guy into my life?
I met either when I was fully aligned, and the second reappeared when I was realigned! So, I will find out.
So, I just keep staying aligned, cherishing my relationship with Me and see what happens.
If the first guy is the One, the universe will show me by letting him show me.
If the second guy is it, same thing.
OR it could be someone new alltogether and thats fine too because the universe knows best!!!
Its done!! 
oxox Monica
PS Sorry for being so long :-)
Last edited on Wed May 21st, 2008 12:47 am by Monica
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Posted: Wed May 21st, 2008 01:35 pm |
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Monica, I'm enjoying reading about your relationship adventures. It is nice how you are seeing the patterns emerging between how aligned you are and how you attract people into your experience.
Thank you for sharing and for seeming to have so much fun with the whole adventure.
Life is supposed to be fun and it is. I love it.
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Posted: Wed May 21st, 2008 02:30 pm |
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mniakm wrote: I am planning to manifest his return to me, on a white horse with a bouquet of flowers and my dad's blessing for a wedding, all the while, where he has become a serious, grouwn up and mature stable life partner...do you think this is over-ambitious at all or can this be possible?
Hi Amy 
If he is a white horse and flowers kind of guy, it's not over-ambitious at all. But if he isn't that kind of guy, and he isn't grown up, mature and stable, no amount of wishing is going to change him.
If you can accept him as he is, you can contact him and tell him so. That means forgetting about marriage for a while. You need to get some clarity on whether being married is more important to you than being with this man.
Or you can be loving enough to let him go completely and focus on yourself for a while. Abraham talks about the things we choose to put into our pie. You want a man with some of the traits this man has AND you want him to be grown up, mature, stable and ready for marriage.
It's possible this man will realise he loves you enough to offer exactly what you want. I hope he does. But if he doesn't love you that much, do you really want him?
I know Abe teaches that we can have anything we want, and I believe it's true. But that means all of us, including your man. He has his own life and wishes. If he married you under pressure you would probably soon find yourself in a marriage that wasn't what either of you wanted.
Perhaps he was 'driftwood', just appearing in your life to show you mmm, I want someone a lot like this... and I also want him to be like that... and like that. That's what the dating merry-go-round is all about: discovering the things we do and don't want in a partner.
Strength for the journey!
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Leah
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Posted: Wed May 21st, 2008 03:02 pm |
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Monica wrote: that the One is Me. I am so excited how good THAT feels. Suddenly I feel this "Im fine being with Me" and it is just overwhelming.
I really feel connected to the first one, because our Inner Beings had time to get to know each other you could say. We had the chance to get close and develop emotions and until yesterday I felt like he is the One. Until the second guy suddenly reappeared this morning I thought the first One most likely seemed to be the One since I never met anyone like him before. I STILL feel he very likely is. However, I also was never in alignment in my entire life before until I found Abraham and I wonder why the universe brougth the second guy into my life? If the first guy is the One, the universe will show me by letting him show me.
OR it could be someone new alltogether and thats fine too because the universe knows best!!!
Hi Monica
I am SO glad you reached the knowledge that the One is you!
But then you seemed to lose it again.
What a romantic thought that God or the Universe has created the perfect partner for us, aka the One. Or is it?
If the Universe is making major decisions like this on our behalves, we have no choice.
If there is just the One, he or she must live up to all our expectations -- which is impossible. So then we think we must have been misled, and this isn't the One at all. And so we must go back to looking for the One.
While we're searching, we see everyone through the filter of is this the One, or isn't it? That's a lot of pressure, for us and for the potential Ones we're auditioning.
The good news is, the One doesn't exist and the Universe is indifferent to our search. Take back your power! The Universe won't show you anything, although I agree the Universe knows best. What will happen is you will feel an inclination towards either the first One or the second One or maybe another One altogether, and then you will create a 'sign' that you use to convince yourself this is THE One.
The man who is now my husband was in my apartment during the first weeks of our relationship. He leaned in to kiss me, all awkward and scared, and just as our lips met, I kid you not, a whole lot of FIREWORKS erupted in the neighbourhood. I could have really made something of that... especially if it hadn't been November 5.
Please don't think the Universe is sorting out your love life. You get to choose it all.
love
Leah
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Posted: Wed May 21st, 2008 09:16 pm |
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Hi Leah,
thanks for your thoughts. I mean I feel wonderful being with the One who is Me, YET I enjoy the feeling of having the One mate to add to my journey. The anticipation feels good, I feel good being with Me. I dont see why that would contradict me saying I am the One for me?
The universe responds to my desires in form of vibrations and matches me with men who are in alignment with that.
As I get to know them and they get to know me, they as well as me continue to expand their/my vibrational escrow.
I believe that the perfect mate would mean the man who is the perfect match vibrationally, he doesnt have to be perfect per se.
That man would also show in his actions that he is the One by expressing that he wants to be exclusive with me since that is what I desire, a committed longterm relationship.
Yes, I will feel inclined toward either (or neither and maybe someone new alltogether), and it has to be the one who makes a perfect match. This man would feel the same, feeling inclined to be with me.
The universe will then also arrange the details, for example for the first man and I to get geographically close, which is one thing on my list, well now it is, it wasnt initially LOL, I added it on after he told me he was moving.
So I think I have the CHOICE by staying in alignment with Me and My desires, which will reflect in the One the universe "picks" meaning actually I picked, but the universe is the one who takes care of people of matching vibrations to come together.
I hope I got it right 
oxox Monica
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Posted: Wed May 21st, 2008 10:02 pm |
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Beth posted in another thread about free will which fits in here perfectly - I just found it and thought I copy it in here:
"So, I am understanding that I make the choice of who comes in my 'path' by where I am vibrating. The Universe will carry my vibration out to the man/men who are on the same vibration. From there, I choose who I desire to hang out with. As I refine my vibration and desires to where I ultimately am on the highest vibration, consistently, not always, then comes the 'perfect mate' (as it may be). ::boat
Either way, according to Abe, the perfect mate is Me. So, this is where I am going to focus on..."
Thanks for this post Beth, and you summed it up wonderfully.
I love the part about refining our vibration as we get to know someone, expanding our vibrational escrow, and thus leading us to the perfect mate.
This may be someone new or the universe may re-arrange things, depending on what it is. For example, geographical distance can be re-arranged to get to be close.
So, the universe doesnt "pick" a perfect mate who is "it" until we let him/her in. As we re-define our desires and thus vibrations we are being lead to the One.
oxox Monica 
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Posted: Thu May 22nd, 2008 03:49 am |
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Starchild wrote: Or you can be loving enough to let him go completely and focus on yourself for a while.
Starchild,
I actually let him go completely simply to remove the resistance that existed from my family's bad feelings towards him. I also wanted time to refocus without any resistance and be able to vibrate cleanly? Does that make any sense, lol!!
Do you know what I mean about letting go of him? I felt that letting go physically would help me manifest our future together, since I know that we are vibrationally connected, and I have never felt such a strong connection to any man ever, as I have with him.
Can you explain the quote you mentioned above? 
Thanks!!
Amy
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