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 Posted: Mon Jul 19th, 2010 12:48 am
TryAgain wrote: Leslie wrote: what is this, the thread where people declare they're stopping posting?!?!
::LOL::LOL::LOL



Well, howabout this....this is the thread where I come to declare that I am lurking and reading and enjoying and basking and expanding and finding clarity and loving (all, without posting).
::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers
I love that.  I second it!

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 Posted: Mon Jul 19th, 2010 12:51 am
joyful vibe wrote: My peeps.
I'm wanting to post when I'm feeling in my Vortex or at least have my toes in there tickling in the waters of wooohoo. :)

So many thoughts, floating in contrast and getting only glimpses of my vibe escrow. Trying to imagine the feeling of what I want...but it's too big for me to do right now.

My kid is doing SO good. Happy, happy, energetic, bold, sweet, mischievous. And going through quite a lot of why, why, why questions peppered with what could happen, if...??! questions.

All I can think these days is that *for me* parenting asks everything of me, then it asks for more. And I'm feeling resentment. I cannot imagine freedom, or what I would even do if I had more time.

So, for these days I am trying to insert myself, and little things I want in with my days with my child which are primarily all about what he wants.
I long for the feeling of it not having to be "either or". I want that "both and". I want to expand and become more while I'm clocking in hours of my day, of my life playing with him, riding elevators, watching him slam doors, and love the cat aggressively despite (and no doubt because) his dad and I have been asking him to be gentle and not hurt her. (I just get up and leave the room. Distract myself. and try to drown out the sound of the cat crying and my son smiling big. My sweet child enjoying hurting her (it seems) but really just not getting the cause-effect of hurting her, and loving that sound she makes. contrast, contrast, contrast!!!)

I'm resentful of those whose kids are older and they can more easily put the spotlight of their own life back on themselves.

I wish to see the bigger picture. I no longer want to feel more negative than good. I just want to feel fantastic, free, and eager for more....I don't want to long for his bedtime, and feel ...less than enthusiastic for the morning.
Am I loving the contrast - as Abe asks?
Hey, I was wondering if there is any expansion without contrast? Can't we just live in joy?
And is contrast just a word - but really nothing that occurs has any meaning - even contrast...except the meaning I give to it? Wouldn't that be cool to view contrast from *only* the point of view of OH YEAH BABY SWEET EXPANSION COMING MY WAY!!::devil

Back soon with more thoughts on the DVD and what spoke to me.
Think I'll go see a movie later and get more vortexy-viewing and then I'll post.

::hugging Joyful Vibe

Sending you much love!!!!::hugging

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 Posted: Mon Jul 19th, 2010 04:01 am
Hi guys!

Beloved Sandy, thank you for your post!
Any mother can understand how you feel. Or at least--I know I can relate.

What Abe said to me in the hotseat really helped me:

I said "I love my kids so much, why do I sometimes want to throttle them?"

::LOL::LOL::LOL

They said, "Because in your living with them and loving them and wanting to throttle them, you have put a version of them in your vibrational escrow that you are not currently being a match to."

they said, "when your happiness depends on other people behaving in a certain way, you're not going to be happy for long. In fact you are not going to be happy at all, because that is the essence of conditional love. You gotta find a way to be happy regardless of what they are doing."

"When they are being rotten, that's not who they ARE. Look over here (in my Vortex) where they really are."

With my kids now, just like you, if I get out of the Vortex, I leave the room. Or, if they are in my room, I say, "I am out of alignment--better to leave me alone. I am going to work on feeling better. " And they leave.

I love the Abe stuff with kids, because it made me realize how Conditionally Loving I can be!!! I thought i was this loving and spiritual person, but that was only with people who agree with me and who Behave!!!
::LOL

I am still working on it. :):allgood

thanks for the opportunity to reflect!

Also, I think the DVD study has been fascinating. A paraphrase quote:

"The kids are mostly downstream. They are here to teach us joyous life."

ahhhhh.

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 Posted: Mon Jul 19th, 2010 09:21 am
Hi JV, I don't know what it's like to have an autistic diagnosis, but I do know what its like to be driven to distraction by my son's behaviour, and to be unable to think straight, so all the great parenting ideas that you are able to have with children when you have the mental space and time, just fly away. I always found it helpful to have people remind me then about simple things I could do - things I already knew I would think of if I was in the vortex. So if you have a good friend you trust that you can run some of the scenarious by, that may be able to offer practical simple solutions which work at least some of the time, then its a good thing.

For instance, with the cat, you could just try removing the cat from the situation, rather than trying to talk your son into being gentle with it. This is kinder to the cat and also removes the temptation from your son and helps circumvent the setting up of habits. Your cat will be happier outside or in a quiet room until your son goes to bed. Also I wouldn't ride the elevator all day. If you can't get your son out of that situation without a major tantrum, then use the simple technique of offering him an icecream once he is in the car. I know we are not supposed to do this, ie bribe, but they do grow out of things and in the meantime it's about what works as you survive. and you may be able to find a variety of alternative things that are powerful enough to distract him. Once he goes to school you will find it all changes alot for you. 

 

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 Posted: Mon Jul 19th, 2010 10:21 am
just to add, JV, i hope that doesn't sound too simplistic, I can't really know what your situation is, except one thing I'm sure I can be sure of, and that's that your boy is beautiful. I would love to hear more of some of the wonderful amazing things he does that make you go wow!

In fact, I am going to list a few of my son's things that make me go wow and make up for the challenges. Although he's not autistic, he is larger than life in many ways. I need reminding sometimes about the Wow! bits.

1. Watching him compose a song on the guitar when he was 3. He didn't know how to play guitar but he was still able to produce a composition with structure and incredible feeling. His dad and I both looked at each other and said: Wow!

2. Watching him ride a pony. What a natural!

3. Seeing his attraction to thrill-seeking and knowing that could be directed to some great sports

4. The character and intelligence in the pictures he draws

5. The funny and knowing things he says, that make you go Wow! where did that come from?!

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 Posted: Mon Jul 19th, 2010 02:41 pm
camelia wrote: just to add, JV, i hope that doesn't sound too simplistic, I can't really know what your situation is, except one thing I'm sure I can be sure of, and that's that your boy is beautiful. I would love to hear more of some of the wonderful amazing things he does that make you go wow!


Camelia,
Thank you. You're right on to gently nudge me to think about the things my beautiful babe does that make me smile or go wow!
Gosh, guys, I have been belly-aching and please know my days aren't filled with aggravation. The way I've parented until now was, I'm really realizing, a giving away of myself and an over-the-top earnest-ness to do things differently than my parents did. So a lot of including myself and what I'd like to do - back into my days, is because I thought parenting was a big...give-away. It's not like my life was perfectly happy before I was a mom....and what I'm living now just highlights for me that my genuine happiness is so very important.
(we ride elevators but when we start I say a set number of times, like 8 going up and down and he's been very cooperative with that. It's really only under an hour of my day. Still....after doing this most days for going on a year...just wish he'd move on to some other interest, ya know? :))

My brilliant beautiful boy:
has a smile that lights up the room and brightens the day of anyone who he shines it on.

is reading at a very advanced level for his age (4.5) (I haven't determined what age group but I'm thinking 8-9  yrs old). Last night he wanted to read more of the chapter books we were reading and into the night his sweet voice was reading with enthusiasm and joy. I sat outside his bedroom door, marveling at my kiddo.

he's brilliant on the computer and it's fun to see how much fun he has watching elevator videos, or playing in a virtual world where he can maneuver around on his own and find elevators and buildings and traffic and buses and.....

he has helped me feel childlike again, and run barefoot everywhere outside, and blow bubbles on our cheeks and laugh big bellyful laughs.

always gets me thinking of new ways to be creative with 'interpersonal relationships'. Daily he shows me where I need to pivot my thoughts and focus on feeling better.

he is so aware of my moods and how I feel. He often times picks up on what I'm thinking and will say something outloud out of context that I had just been thinking, he does have some form of telepathy - it's evident. Also a kind of empathy with my feelings.

he has healed so many of us ol'  (formerly)  grumpy adults  just by being here.

my heart and ability to open and love has changed only because of his existence. My love for him helps me focus on the Love that we Are.

****
okay guys. I'll post DVD quotes-notes on my next post. thank you so much for....giving me this place to expand and love, love, love!!::hearts


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 Posted: Mon Jul 19th, 2010 04:46 pm
JV, He sounds amazing and not at all what i think of in regards to the A diagnosis, especially the part of being aware of *your* moods. I could see how i would resist that diagnosis altogether.

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 Posted: Tue Jul 20th, 2010 04:19 am
This is one of the most beautiful threads I've ever read, mostly due to your truthful and heartfelt posts Joyful Vibe.

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 Posted: Tue Jul 20th, 2010 05:13 pm
Hello!

Leslie, I wanted to say how very awesome of you to say:
I love the Abe stuff with kids, because it made me realize how Conditionally Loving I can be!!! I thought i was this loving and spiritual person, but that was only with people who agree with me and who Behave!!!

I've felt the same way. So we really get to flex our Allowing and Loving muscles when people disagree with us or don't 'behave'. :)

Evey, you had said:
JV, He sounds amazing and not at all what i think of in regards to the A diagnosis, especially the part of being aware of *your* moods. I could see how i would resist that diagnosis altogether.

And that got me thinking. It really just gets me rethinking what Autism is, you know? This whole diagnosis-thing got me and those closest to my kiddo to rethink what that means and find a way to spin it in a positive way within. There are many 'flavors' of being autistic, and my son could be considered as "having" Aspergers, a kind of relatively high-functioning autism where they may be very bright/intelligent, a bit slower developed on the social-connecting/communicating and have a focused interest in something (like automatic doors and elevators). Maybe because I've gotten to a much more accepting place with this and am excited for his future, I don't think the diagnosis is a negative thing at all, rather a way for my son to get more individual attention and opportunity to ....love life, be the happy kid he is and enjoy school as much as he wants. I'm actually very blessed, I don't know how I would handle it if he had been diagnosed at moderate to severe on the spectrum as the first segment on the DVD - the hot-seater's son is.......which brings me to:

The Time of Awakening.
I love how Abraham's words on Autism help me feel uplifted, excited, joyful to be a part of this awakening.
My heart went out to the man in the hotseat because....his heart was so open and I felt how he wanted to know his child will be okay. I share his heartfelt desires to have my son have friends and to be able to communicate with my son. When he said his little guy could really just articulate what he needed or wanted but not really talk much beyond that - I know that could be painful to live with.
You want to be able to talk with you child(ren) and really know them. And have them talk with you about their feelings, about anything. With autistic kids, we are a bit forced to maybe forego that. And there's grief in that realization.
So, all these kids coming in being diagnosed with autism - what is the Universe/what are they trying to show us? What expansion are we being offered to experience?
Communicating beyond words. That is the gift.
And OH I want to do this! I want to get very very good at this!!

I like how Estherham said the autistic child is in a better place of deliberate creation than anyone in that room.

I'd love to hear more from anyone who has an autistic child or who works with them. Your insights and observations and the expansion that you've lived - hearing about that would be so, so valuable.

Much love to you all!!:kiss:
(and thank you so much Mal and whoever else has appreciated my postings - from my open heart place. It feels so good to have no barriers, to feel no fear, to worry not at all about what anyone thinks. To just put mySelf out here and flow L-O-V-E. :beautiful:)

Joyfully Vibing Mama Sandy


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"Maybe because I've gotten to a much more accepting place with this and am excited for his future, I don't think the diagnosis is a negative thing at all, rather a way for my son to get more individual attention and opportunity to ....love life, be the happy kid he is and enjoy school as much as he wants."

Joyful Vibe Sandy, it was beautiful for me to read your words above. I sense a real vibrational shifting that has taken place here. I just love seeing the amazing impact these wonderful teachings are having in bringing more joy into lives no matter what is going on. All the power is within us at any moment. It is through the blessings of your amazing son that this expansion has occurred and like Abraham says....we all benefit from your expansion, so thank you!

Virginia
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Oh Sandy i adore you prespective of feeling appreciative for where your son is! It allowed me to connect to appreciation and be so APPRECIATIVE that it is my MIL i take care of and not my mother or father (both croaked). I think i would find it painful if my mother behaved like my MIL never feeling pleased. It is MUCH easier that it is MIL who was actually pretty nasty to me before she got enough level of dementia. Caring for her from a loving  place (same place that makes me rescue animals and kittens) with loving but healthy detachment is the perfect stance for me.

PLUS, i have practiced LOA on her and she really rises to the occasion and I KNOW i get the absolute best from her (esp knowing her former personality!::devilsnort/laugh!!). I feel like a rock star...rock star!::devil

::singer::musicThank you Sandy for helping me feel appreciation for where I am with family members too!

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 Posted: Thu Jul 22nd, 2010 09:24 am
loving the love turnaround on this thread. sometimes it just takes awhile to process the EGS.

Evey, I have read your threads about your MIL and really appreciated how patient and caring you are, to even go there in the first place.

It reminds me that the little pivots eventually turn into a big pivot, where over time, the change is huge.

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camelia wrote:

It reminds me that the little pivots eventually turn into a big pivot, where over time, the change is huge.

::wow
Camelia, couldn't pass this one up!  WWWWWOOOOOOWWWWWWW!

I so totally feel this completely!

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 Posted: Sun Jul 25th, 2010 04:46 pm
Hello friends!

My mom just said this in an email to me (the topic was my son, she had just babysat for him the day before):

He is a really loving child and his great gift is that he accepts people as they are.

In thinking about people with autistic traits, I never thought of it from this point of view.
They can show us, help us remember to accept people as they are.
They accept people as they are.
They do not judge.
They do not compare.
They Be Who They Really Are and model for us how we can be. *Really* *truly* accepting of everyone and anyone and who they are.

I love this. I LOVE THIS!!::hearts

~~~~~
some things Abe said that stuck out for me (questioner was mom of autistic boy)....
Is his happiness dependent on (our teaching him) to please others? (no!)
You want your child to connect with Source energy.
Child born 'missing' factor of needing to please others.
Want him to maintain his vibration.
Usually kids are taught behavior instead of vibration.
Don't make him different than he is and make him same as something I like better. (oh!)
Creators of our own experience. They are different enough that they cannot conform. (yay!)
Feels like extra big responsibility - you're not here to fix it for others (and sacrifice your dreams, then feel resentment. Let me be who I am.
Want our kids to be well-treated by others.
Let him experience what reaching out to others feels like.
Find thougths that match MY escrow.
I will be who I Am. Who I am is so close to Source energy.
My work is to turn my attention/focus on what *I* put in my vibrational escrow.
....on his own terms, and he will be joyful.

:kiss: Much love to you,
Sandy


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 Posted: Tue Jul 27th, 2010 08:49 pm
Sandy! What a wonderful summary!::TU:kiss:  Yes, that spoke to me too, that kids are generally taught to behave, rather than to align.  I'm working on that one, myself!

Here are another couple of quotes from the DVD:
[Abe speaking for the woman, to her skeptical colleagues] 
"What is it that all of us want? The stuff, the money, the relationships--we think we'll be happier in having them.  And I looked at these children, and aside from frustratration from being asked to do things they can't easily do, they are mostly happy children. [...]
They are advanced. They have come forth understanding something that most of us want to understand.  They've got a bead on happiness.

"I'm going to explore these children from the perspective that they have something to teach US."

This is how I feel about my kids.  All kids. I just hung out with a bunch of cousins' children. And it was DELIGHTFUL.  Kids just know that all is well. They are in the moment. They're not worried about much, except--what would be fun to do right now?

I LOVE that.

Another quote:
You think you're communicating through words, but you are NOT.  You're communicating through ATTITUDE.  [...] Your hear a mother screaming at her kids, "DON'T YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU?" And there is NO LOVE in her vibration at all!
I have recently decided that when I am out of the Vortex, I'm going to make myself scarce.  I'll go be by myself and leave my family alone.

I had to do this a few times yesterday.  ::LOL

Later, my husband said to me, "You've been great!"  Really, I said? But I was in a horrible mood this morning. He said, "But you didn't take it out on us! You went to the gym."
And that's fine with you? I said.  (Lingering co-dependence, but I'm okay with that!)
"Yes, of course!" He replied.


Ahhh.

Wow, that confirmation made me SO HAPPY. It's working.  What a relief! 


The only thing that matters is that I FEEL GOOD.

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 Posted: Tue Jul 27th, 2010 08:52 pm
So, that said, the month is drawing to a close. I think this DVD study group has been FANTASTIC!!!!

I am ready to do it again!

Let's watch Law of Attraction in Action Episode 12 this time!

I'll start a new thread about it.

With love to you all! Thanks for the discussion!!!!
xoxooxo
L::rainbow

edit: here is the thread!
http://theabeforum.com/forum8/18559.html

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Hi everyone,
There is always somebody "new to it all" like me joining and having their own questions, and and comments to add. I have came across Abraham teachings four months ago. Everything their word resonated in me deeply exept of what they had to say about autistic children. And that is because my own experience being a mother of severely autiscic non verbal self-injuring boy plagued by painful allergies and other conditions for years now. I am slowly coming around, although it is not fast or easy process.
I understand that woman scientist from the "Autistic Revolution" DVD is writing a book. Does anyone know if that book came out or do they know her name or have her email?
I think I really could use some help with new ideas and techniques.

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Maryna,
I don't know the information you requested but wanted to send much LOVE and hugs your way!!

:kiss:::hugging::hugging::hugging::hugging::hugging

I applaud you for looking for more ways to know your son and feel as good as you can.

I've had a difficult few days (going through some negative emotions and finally getting some release/relief after some tears and anger), and my little man picks up on my emotions so he had a hard time yesterday (I cannot get away with trying to be upbeat when I'm really not. He picks up on my *real* dominant vibration). Still a journey accepting our diagnosis (PDD-NOS), and grieving/pouting over things we can't do easily that others can. My son is perfect, it's me who is....struggling in my expansion. I am in awe of the challenges you face; I do not know if I could summon the strength. Except....I'd have no choice. Being strong and as positive as I can. There is much to be easy about, much to be grateful for. I am.

You've sent out your rockets of desire ......find peace and ease where you can and the Universe will answer your request in many ways. (have you ever seen the tv PBS show 'The Horse Boy'?)

::hearts ~Sandy

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Thank you,
For years I found little solace in talking to other parents of autistic children since almost all, well all children my sons age I have ever seen were higher on autistic spectrum than he was. And they would make rapid developmental leaps receiving same therapy my son was.  Physically perfect, he would develop very slowly - and he needs a lot of repetition to learn . My monkey brain was unable to stop comparing, and thinking about what could of been , and was remainded about it several times a day every time I have seen interaction of healthy children with others. I send hours almost every day helples, watching him scream from pain.I have spend years overwhelmed and  in despair.

The set of challenges for raising children on low end of the autistic spectrum is quite different from those on higher end. Some areas are easier, and some are more difficult.

We lost funding for his therapy. Now I am doing a lot of work on my own emotional state since I have came across Abraham teachings. We enjoy this great summer together.  I really wanted to go on Alaska cruise but I settled on mp3 download - much cheaper - and since I am not very good in fiscal manifestations - "path of least resistance".  I am in the proces of going through it now since it came couple of days ago and it is great.

Now there is nobody I know with whom I can talk about my life that is mostly filled up with A&A: autism an Abraham. But I am sure certain that all those beautiful conversations and tons of solutions  are in my "vortex":)
Thank you for your hugs, they were much needed::TU

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Maryna wrote: Thank you,
For years I found little solace in talking to other parents of autistic children since almost all, well all children my sons age I have ever seen were higher on autistic spectrum than he was. And they would make rapid developmental leaps receiving same therapy my son was.  Physically perfect, he would develop very slowly - and he needs a lot of repetition to learn . My monkey brain was unable to stop comparing, and thinking about what could of been , and was remainded about it several times a day every time I have seen interaction of healthy children with others. I send hours almost every day helples, watching him scream from pain.I have spend years overwhelmed and  in despair.

The set of challenges for raising children on low end of the autistic spectrum is quite different from those on higher end. Some areas are easier, and some are more difficult.

We lost funding for his therapy. Now I am doing a lot of work on my own emotional state since I have came across Abraham teachings. We enjoy this great summer together.  I really wanted to go on Alaska cruise but I settled on mp3 download - much cheaper - and since I am not very good in fiscal manifestations - "path of least resistance".  I am in the proces of going through it now since it came couple of days ago and it is great.

Now there is nobody I know with whom I can talk about my life that is mostly filled up with A&A: autism an Abraham. But I am sure certain that all those beautiful conversations and tons of solutions  are in my "vortex":)
Thank you for your hugs, they were much needed::TU

You are no longer alone. I am 'an Aber' and my son is on the autistic spectrum.
I am keeping you in my thoughts for receiving the help you've desired with managing with your son and the physical pain he goes through. I will hold the vision of you finding peace, comfort, strength, and release from dispair. I will hold thoughts of your son's pain lessening and more happiness in his days.
I do not experience exactly what you do with your son, but I do have to self-adjust all day, most days. We can't go to the movies, we can't have playdates ....yet? We've tried. My child clings to me as he gets overwhelmed. I question myself often if I have made the right decisions for him on pre-school, therapy, etc. A mommy-friend just spoke of a successful first visit to the dentist with her 4 year old while our dentist trip was completely unsuccessful and I will have to try many, many things to attempt to establish some possibility that we can ever get his teeth cleaned. I don't work through these things quickly, the impact is there and there is sadness and constant striving to find the positive. But, I do see and meet helpful and understanding people everywhere I go. (which helps when I have well-meaning neighbors who try to chat him up and he doesn't say much and they ask 'why?! isn't he talking??) sigh.

As this is an Abraham forum, we can absorb and somehow find solace in the words of Abe saying autistic ones come forth to NOT conform. With them we can learn other ways of communicating beyond words. They do not have a disability, they are just different. (I've compared too, it's ...my work to stop doing that because I rarely feel better and my kid deserves his mommy looking upon our life with the best thoughts I can manager. Uh, guilt there a bit...)

You can PM me at any time. We must be more than capable to be mommies to little ones with differences - and they knew this as they chose us to be the mommy. There's much that is very good about this and we can work on focusing together and finding and milking those good points. We can also lean on each other during the tough times. My goal: to feel better more often about this and then to feel fantastic about me and my influence with my little man. :)


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