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 Posted: Wed Apr 14th, 2010 09:23 am
I find myself stuck in worry and anxiety more often these days. I get that awful feeling in my chest and find it extremely uncomfortable. It is quite a great deal of contrast from the usual joy and appreciation I am used to feeling and it seems to be getting worse, not better.

I just don't know how to work my way up the EGS. What comes next? Ultimately, I figure almost anything will feel better but I don't know what to name the emotion and thus can't seem to find it. I've decided I'm ready to do some work on this now. I just don't really know how.

Please share with me your methods for overcoming anxiety and worry!!


This is the second night this week I haven't slept. Not long ago it was every couple weeks, then one night a week and now it can be two in a row.

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 Posted: Wed Apr 14th, 2010 12:39 pm
Hej!

I might not be the perfect person to answer this as I often find myself in the middle of this, but I have figured out what it is that causes me these feelings. In my case its me focusing on something I dislike about my relationship and that I am having a hard time turning around or telling a better story about. Its like many say; how do you change something thats constantly in your face.

I have however now come so far that I can see the positive side of it. I can only worry about this subject so much, I mean at some point you just cannot analyse it any more. I do notice it works to just sit down at my computer and start writing, asking myself all kinds of questions. Keep answering them, new questions show up, answer them, and so on and so on. Eventually you get to the core of whats worrying you and while writing you have taken a few steps back and its easier to look at it more objectively and find better feelings about it.

Hang in there and keep telling yourself that you already know all the answers, you just have to allow them to become clear.

::hugging

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 Posted: Wed Apr 14th, 2010 12:57 pm
Hi katkin,

(I am so predictable) You gotta make peace with where you are!!::LOL

I remember way way way before I ever discovered Abe, I used to think to myself whenever I felt really bad; What's the worst that could happen?

I think because I have some hard times in the past, and sometimes, because the worst did happen, it helped me next time i felt bad.

I remember when I was 21, I lost my job. I was in the middle of paying off my debts, I had cancelled all of my payment protection insurance because it was costing too much each month, and I was just getting on the straight and narrow. Then I lost my job. I was out of work for 3 months. I couldnt make any re-payments the whole time because i literally had NOTHING. My acounts went into arrears, I went over my overdraft limit, and I incurred charges.

But , in the midst of all that, I realised that my life wasn't actually any different. I was still me, the sun still came up, i could play on my playstation, and best of all - My sister had a baby, and when her husband went back to work after 2 weeks paternity leave, I practically moved in with her during the week to help with the baby, and help around the house, and just have fun with my baby niece for 3 months! It was one of the mose awesome 3 months of my life!

And sure enough, I got my job back and got back on track with my payments, and sure enough, cleared my debts and eventually moved out of my mums. It was all good.

So now if I worry about money, I know that if I lose everything (which is not something I worry about) I know that even in that situation, things just arent really all that bad - it is just an illusion!! And also, thinking or worrying about a negative situation always seems far far far worse than if you are actually IN that situation.

I'm not assuming that it is money that you are worried about, but this really does apply to any situation - it is never as bad as you think it is. Just think, if yesterday you were happy, and today you are worrying, what is different from yesterday to today? Nothing.

Nothing around you or in your experience is any different - the only difference is the way you are feeling in the moment. So it is only a matter of perception. Imagine if everything you had was taken away. Strip everything away, and you realise that YOU will still be there, and YOU will always be okay, in ANY situation. Situations, conditions, manifestations, whatever, they are all temporary. Temporary indicators of your vibration. YOU however are eternal, and so as long as you are YOU, and stay true to YOU - YOU will always be OKAY xxx

The Universe has got your back Katkin.::hugging

To quote the legend, Mr Marley...

"Don't worry, 'bout a thing, coz every little thing, is gonna be alright!!!!!::music

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 Posted: Wed Apr 14th, 2010 01:10 pm
Hi Katkin - I've had a lot of issues with anxiety too, and I can tell you, what has really worked for me is regular physical exercise (running) and meditation, but it's not an instant fix. It takes some time to feel the effects, but once you do, it's worth it. I still have moments when I get 'that feeling', but I have a little note card that reminds me of something Abraham says about that feeling in the pit of your stomach. I'm paraphrasing Abraham, but this is what my card says:

"The feeling I have in the pit of my stomach and throughout my body is the feeling of disconnection between me and my Inner Being. I'm using {some bogus thought} as a reason to not be in sync with that which is love."

Reading it instantly reminds me of why I'm feeling the anxiety, fear, etc....and right away, just having a reason for the feeling makes me feel better, and then I try to look at the situation or person through the eyes of Source. It has helped me tremendously. Hope it helps you too.

Hugs,
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 Posted: Wed Apr 14th, 2010 01:20 pm
Katkin wrote: I find myself stuck in worry and anxiety more often these days. I get that awful feeling in my chest and find it extremely uncomfortable. It is quite a great deal of contrast from the usual joy and appreciation I am used to feeling and it seems to be getting worse, not better.



Interesting that. Yes? Zipping along in the Vortex, spinning faster and happier and faster and happier and then...thud! Flipped off into the mud that seems to be turning into quicksand.

I know--it only sounds funny when you can see it from a certain angle---but you will.

I had the following thoughts last night as I was examining my less than perfect bodily conditions as a magnified version of my EGS. So that I could look at each of them and see clearly how I was seeing myself in a way that Source and my IB did not see me.

It started to feel like "Wow! I've got a whole bunch of stuff to clear up!"

So for example I could see how a skin condition was a physical manifestation of a long held belief that I could not let the world see all of me because there were a lot of parts of me that were not acceptable to the world----then more precisely---not acceptable to me.

And that not-acceptable-to-me thought felt so uncomfortable and restricting that the next thought that popped up was from Abraham;

"Well you know THAT'S BOGUS!"

I laughed and laughed. Of course it's bogus. They are all bogus. And each time we get flipped out of the Vortex into the mud is another opportunity to shed more of these limiting painful beliefs, worries, anxieties etc. So that we can ride higher/lighter/happier once we get back on.

That awful solar plexus feeling is nothing more than an indication that you are thinking something that your IB will never think. Start there if it feels right. Trying to push away from our EGS just keeps us stuck. Like trying to run from our own shadow.

We "overcome" our demons when we realize that they are made of nothing. Enjoy this exploration out of the Vortex too. Because you can't get it wrong and you can't get it done.

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 Posted: Wed Apr 14th, 2010 01:27 pm
Hi, Katkin--

The first thing you do is HALT.  Stop what you're doing, stop what you're thinking, stop wiggling, stop frowning.  Pretend you are God and the world has to wait, tough luck, because God is busy aligning. It might be a few seconds or it might be an hour. Ya'll will just have to be patient.  In fact, ya'll might be fired if you don't stop bothering me with these worries. 

Threatening to fire somebody usually shuts them up for a bit.

I remember Esther saying something months ago about basking in your physical body.  Worked very well for me.  My wonderful fingers type type typing, my wonderful ears listening to the birds this morning as I type to you, my wonderful sense of taste sipping the java next to me, and spending time helping a fellow Aber align.

After awhile, it became a habit to align with the body to quiet the mind.   

Come back into your physical body, which doesn't know how to worry and doesn't understand anything but Now.  Breathe deeply---ten times, slowly.   If there is someone around or there is someone you can call who is into alignment, talk to them or call them and ask them to talk you down. 

If it's 3 AM, come here and post and the Vortex fairies will do their job after you click SEND.

Don't assign blame to the anxiety.  It's not money, it's not the job, not nuttin'. When you get into this state, it isn't reasonable.  You are a baby and the baby just needs to be comforted, held, petted and rocked, softly, gently, tenderly.  Need to get back into your amazing toes, fingers, breasts, belly, genitals, soles of your feet.  

Shhh, don't tell anyone---we're all supposed to be grownups, toughing it out through life.  Nahhh.
 

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 Posted: Wed Apr 14th, 2010 01:37 pm
Hi Katkin, I myself have long term issues with anxiety, in my case, largely focused on feelings of unworthiness and feeling inferior to other people resulting in socially phobic behaviour.  As you say, it can also just feel like a churning, almost physically painful thing inside you – mine is always in my solar plexus area.  

I will try to explain what I have recently been finding helpful.  It’s based around just offering myself love and comfort, the same way you would to a child who was scared, upset and hurting.  The main thing I aim for when I do this is NOT to try to work anything out, NOT to try to analyse anything or FIX anything.  I’m purely offering myself love and comfort because it feels good.  I’m also NOT focused on making the pain go away – I’m doing it out of love and because it feels good and I deserve that.  Back to the analogy of comforting a child – you’re not trying to improve or fix the child, you’re doing it because you feel love and affection for them and you just want to soothe and comfort them because that’s the compassion that comes naturally. ::hearts

 With me – I don’t tend to use too many words.  Mainly because I can really get stuck in a vibe of – something’s wrong, something’s wrong with me, I must work it all out, I must fix it, I must make it go away aaaaarrrrrrgggggghhhhh  - of course just creating more and more anxiety and tension for myself. :(

 I just invoke a feeling or love or warmth within myself. We have all felt warm and loving towards children/animals/a loved one – invoke this feeling in yourself, aimed towards yourself, be kind, easy and gentle in your attitude towards yourself.  When I really get into this good, it literally feels like a pouring oil over troubled waters, I can feel warm love spreading through my solar plexus and easing me.  ::hearts

 Of course, if I jump back into the “anxious story” I can make myself feel awful again.  You know – I’ll think – yeah, it’s all very well being all loving – but what actually has actually CHANGED??!!  Which of course takes me back straight back to the anxiety vibe, guaranteeing me more of the same!! :(    

So I just think, well, I’m doing this, just because it feels nice, and it’s nice to feel nice.  I’ll give myself a break and just put my worry and anxiety stories down for a little while and allow myself some warmth and love.  If law of attraction responds to the vibration you’re offering and sends you more of the same, then the more I can feel myself into a warm, easy, gentle, loving, compassionate vibe, hopefully the more of the same will become more and more available to me.::hearts

 Try to take it easy on yourself and be as sweet, patient and loving towards yourself as you would to a precious little child, it really does feel much better. ::hearts::hearts::hearts

 

 

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 Posted: Wed Apr 14th, 2010 03:17 pm
Loved your answer SJ. especially this part:
Come back into your physical body, which doesn't know how to worry and doesn't understand anything but Now. 

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Wow, great! Thanks so much everyone for such wonderful posts. It's so nice to be able to come here for help to get back on track.::group

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 Posted: Sat Apr 17th, 2010 06:35 am
Sparklebright wrote: Zipping along in the Vortex, spinning faster and happier and faster and happier and then...thud! Flipped off into the mud that seems to be turning into quicksand.

 

This made me laugh - I immediately pictured myself flying out of the vortex and landing face down in the mud.  Splat! ::LOL  Oh - and I have been there!

I get into a worry cycle, and what I try to do is distract myself with anything. I try to read (something fun and light), because that is one of the only things that I can do that allows absolutely no other thoughts to happen.  Some days, I just have to give myself a break and say, it's okay to feel what I feel, and I know I'll feel better again.  I know it's contrast to help me figure out what I really do want.  AND now I have a new tool - the face down in the mud thought - I'm thinking it will make me laugh and remind me to take things less seriously.

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 Posted: Sat Apr 17th, 2010 04:23 pm
I haven't read the responses you received following your post but I thought I should let you know that I just posted a powerful prayer on the RAMPAGE OF APPRECIATION that did wonders for me.  Geez did it take me directly into the

 ::vortex1a

Read it and let it comfort you, embrace you, and make you feel how loved and blessed you really are.


:shock: Joy-Lise

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 Posted: Sat Apr 17th, 2010 04:37 pm
Something that i found really helpful recently was what abe said on hayhouse radio about moving from worry to hope.

It just really struck me regarding a situation that i was worried about.  And i started to focus on hope instead.  It really really helped me. 

They were talking about it realitive to wanting money and how you worry and think you have to do all these things to work it out, retrain, study, pass, apply for a job, then convince yr employer you were the best for the job.....on and on.

They were saying how there is a much easier journey, the emotional journey, to just go from worry to hope.  To feel hopeful about your money situation, you job, your relationship, your health....whatever, because it is the same thing, its a energy shift and when you shift the vibration the circumstances will shift

I am sharing because i found it helped me alot.  By feeling hopeful about things i usually worried about.  Changing the pattern from worry to hope.

Hopefull about things working out.  Hopeful about the future.  Hopeful about money.  Hopeful about.......

When you make a choice to feel hopeful and let go of the worry, the universe HAS to match that new vibration.  And hope feels alot better than the worry.  HOPE. 



Songbird  x

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 Posted: Sat Apr 17th, 2010 04:39 pm
I am in "awe", so deeply moved by all the wonderful responses you received.

Thank you to each and everyone who have shared such wisdom!

::music:allgood::music

Joy-Lise

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Wow, you've been getting some amazing responses. It's so wonderful to have this forum. I'd like to ask about older children? I've just joined so I hope this is the appropriate way to do this.. I have been worrying about my teenage son. He spends a lot of time alone and when he tries to connect with his friends it seems they don't really want to be with him. Talk about out of the vortex and into the mud. This is my own teenage nightmare returning. He doesn't really seem sad about it, but it's hard for me to know what is my 'stuff' and what is his. I want to help him, I worry about the alone time, but have no clue what to do.  I'd appreciate any and all responses.

El

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 Posted: Sat Apr 17th, 2010 05:41 pm
Avigal

Oh Dear - your story spoke to me, but as being "the" teenager" needing my space to recharge my batteries!

I've gone through this phase for a long time and oh I wish my mother would have understood that my needing to be on my own had NOTHING to do with her, that my intention was NOT to reject her, but to digest whatever I had felt during the day away from home, re-center myself using music, or simply daydreaming all alone....

The best way to love him is to set him totally free while he knows, without a doubt, that you will always be there for him - you love him, exactly as he is right now BECAUSE you trust that he WILL find his way!

Joy-Lise ::hugging




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 Posted: Sat Apr 17th, 2010 11:41 pm
::TU::TU::TU::TU::TU

Yes, I have been getting some amazing responses. Just reading them makes me feel better.

I rediscovered deep breathing and meditation and I am starting to make that part of my regular routine. And just noticing the little things again: my comfy chair, the warmth in the room, my cup of tea, fuzzy socks, blooming flowers.

Amazing how taking notice of simple things calms me. I'm working to improve my mood when I'm feeling okay before I sink somewhere deeper. That way I'm already moving downstream so my boat is less likely to get turned around.

You all have reminded me that it feels good to do this, and I like feeling good. I think I'll take my hand off the stove for a while and see how I manage with that.
::downstream

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I'm learning that this feeling in my chest, this back-burner worry that's sort of simmering quietly away is only a habitual reaction. It is only a thought that I have kept thinking. It doesn't mean it is true, it is a belief that when I am uncertain I should feel anxious about it.

It is untrue. It is only a belief. It is only a learned behavior. I can behave and react differently now.

I can learn to feel fine in any given situation and I can begin to attract experiences that feel good. I can expand from this and I can go with the flow.

I can turn this around just by thinking about it. I've done it before. Everything always works out, I can do this.

What I want is to feel good, what I want is to feel confident in my ability, what I want is to know I'll be fine and that, of course, I am fine.

Where I am now and how I am feeling is okay and allowed, and I am ready to move beyond it and feel some relief.

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 Posted: Mon Apr 26th, 2010 03:50 pm
songbird wrote: Something that i found really helpful recently was what abe said on hayhouse radio about moving from worry to hope.

It just really struck me regarding a situation that i was worried about.  And i started to focus on hope instead.  It really really helped me. 

They were talking about it realitive to wanting money and how you worry and think you have to do all these things to work it out, retrain, study, pass, apply for a job, then convince yr employer you were the best for the job.....on and on.

They were saying how there is a much easier journey, the emotional journey, to just go from worry to hope.  To feel hopeful about your money situation, you job, your relationship, your health....whatever, because it is the same thing, its a energy shift and when you shift the vibration the circumstances will shift

I am sharing because i found it helped me alot.  By feeling hopeful about things i usually worried about.  Changing the pattern from worry to hope.

Hopefull about things working out.  Hopeful about the future.  Hopeful about money.  Hopeful about.......

When you make a choice to feel hopeful and let go of the worry, the universe HAS to match that new vibration.  And hope feels alot better than the worry.  HOPE. 



Songbird  x




LOVELY, Songbird!!!!!!

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 Posted: Mon Dec 24th, 2012 03:23 am
I was too a person that was very anxious, i'm 17, and i had anxiety issues since i was 13, because i was called a very 'sensitive' person, and i thought being sensitive was bad, because everyone told me that, my therapist told me that. But when i discovered abraham i discovered that being sensitive is actually a blessing, being in contact with your emotional guidance system is really really good. So anxiety is just a sign that what you're thinking is BOGUS it's A LIE in your vortex.

Don't try to feel good, don't force anything. when you feel that way just take a walk, pet your animal, take a bath, go watch tv, go to the computer watch abraham hicks, listen to music, like distract yourself the most you can. Go general.
And only embrance the subject that makes you anxious when you are in the vortex.

hope i helped :)

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